At the Heritage, we specialize in supporting relationships across the life span. We provide a variety of therapy services including individual, group, and couples/family therapy. We offer ongoing relationship counseling using the leading edge models of treatment based on solid research such as the Gottman Method of therapy developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy by Dr. Susan Johnson. Partners seek counseling for a variety of reasons such as communication issues, feeling disconnected from each other and unable to feel understood by their partner, intimacy problems, parenting or collaborating as a team, infidelity, life dreams/goals, unsolvable conflict, and past trauma. It is also extremely helpful for couples facing experiencing external stress outside of their relationship as well as approaching major life transitions such as getting married, having a baby, retiring, etc. Couples therapy can teach valuable skills for maintaining connection and offering a road map for repair.
Couples therapy is designed to help two people in a committed relationship improve the quality of their interaction. Often this involves looking at each person’s family of origin (the family you grew up in) to understand the meaning of certain relationship behaviors (such as silence, anger, humor, sacrifice, commitment, etc). It involves using new skills to communicate feelings and motives. Couples therapy is not for the faint of heart, but it can do wonders for a relationship.
About 80% of what looks like marital problems are actually individual issues in one or both partners. We look at family of origin as the place where each person learned about love, communication, conflict, conflict resolution, as well as the meaning of a host of attitudes and behaviors that affect relationships.
A common misunderstanding about Sex Therapy is that it is primarily about difficulties with sexual activity. Sex Therapy does address these concerns when necessary, but Sex Therapy is much more than that. In reality, Sex Therapy would be better named “Intimacy Therapy,” because in romantic relationships, all of the intimate conversations, connections, interactions, glances and touches that we share are an integral part of the sexual process. The greatest and most sexual organ in our body is our brain, and when we feel like we are having problems connecting mentally or emotionally in a relationship, intimacy suffers. When intimacy suffers, often our sex life does as well.